Since a pandemic like COVID-19 is so unprecedented it can be almost impossible not to react with some anxiety and fear. There is so much that we don’t know and it’s important that we own that. It’s equally important that we explain this fact to our children without instilling fear.

Kids will be taking their lead from you, their trusted grown-up, to figure out how to react. Here are a couple tips for talking with kids about COVID-19.

1. Be calm.

   Kids are tuning forks to our energy. If we are buzzing, so are they. They need you to stay calm. They need you to be able to say, “I’m not sure what’s going to happen.” “I’m not sure when you’ll be able to go back to school.” “I’m not sure when you’ll be able to see your friends again.” without panicking. If you answer in an anxious way, the story they will create in their heads about what’s happening in the world will be far worse.

2. Be honest.

   Don’t lie. If you don’t know the answer, say so. It’s ok to say, “This is new for all of us so I’m not sure. I promise that when I know more I’ll tell you.” Kids can tell when you’re not being truthful. Do your best to answer in age appropriate ways.

3. Model good hygiene.

   Instead of panicking about them washing their hands, or using sanitizer, model good hygiene. Make it a rule to wash hands periodically, and you do it with them. Sing the song (ABC’s, Twinkle-Twinkle, Happy Birthday) with them. Make sure they know you are staying clean because it’s healthy and not because you’re nervous they are going to get sick.

4. Make time to talk.

   Find time everyday to check in and just let them know that you’re there no matter what. Kids do well with stability. You are their rock, if you are feeling anxious, make sure you have someone to talk to.